Boudoir Photography: My Fears.
Boudoir Photography, there’s nothing sexier. We’re constantly challenged visually by boudoir photographers’ flawless images of sex pots and pinup photo playfulness all over billboards and the internet. We love boudoir. It’s seeing sexy, feeling sexy and being sexy. Our society thrives on it, and whether we realize it or not, boudoir photographers define the meaning of it for us. We either dream of being – or being with – the subject of boudoir imagery. Bottom line: boudoir photography is the hottest, most sought after human art form, and it’s right in front of us all the time.
Now close your eyes, for just one second, and imagine that you are the only one responsible for defining sexy for yourself…
Were you a pinup girl? What did it look like?
If you thought about someone other than yourself, then you should repeat that step again. Now try to imagine your own boudoir photography photo shoot. Sexy is what you make it, and although you may not believe it, it’s inevitable: it’s you. If you’re still not convinced that you are what sexy means, then perhaps you need to take a step out of the skin you think you’re in and let’s someone else re-dress you as a boudoir pinup bombshell. Sounds crazy I’m sure but believe me, it will be the best move you could ever make.
Being the subject of a boudoir photography session will literally change your life forever. It’s the sexiest experience alive and I’m dying to share mine with you.
It all started with a retro pinup obsession: the hair, make-up and the way the colors pop – along with the attitude of boudoir – just fabulous. Who doesn’t love a red lipstick? What about some vintage pinup lingerie? Pinup photo perfect, right?! I had to have it and feel what it was like to wear it. I needed to see myself as a pinup girl in a sexy boudoir photograph and I wanted to love what I saw. So to fuel my fascination (and after much research), I phoned Harmony Boudoir Photography, a studio I’d found online (via Yelp nonetheless). I was breathless. This was seriously some of the best boudoir photography I’d ever seen, just beautiful. Every woman was radiating confidence and I couldn’t wait to be in front of a boudoir photographer myself. The phone began to ring as I continued to click through their online portfolio and I choked – boudoir poses seemed far out. The fear hit me: there was no way I could be the subject of a boudoir photograph. Several thoughts instantly flooded my under confident mind: I’m not that flexible, my collar bone isn’t that prominent and I can’t follow through with this boudoir photgraphy idea.. and in the midst of my spin out a calming voice answered: “Hello this is Star”.
Enter Boudoir photography stage left.
Next thig you know it’s two weeks later and I’m at a boudoir photography studio. I was sitting in a chair sipping a cup of coffee with the Cure on blast, getting my makeup and hair curled to pinup photography perfection and sharing endless laughs with two amazing women I didn’t know the day before. What I did know however, was that within the hour, I’d have 80% of my body exposed in front of a camera posted in those sexpot boudoir photography poses I feared being in. What’s even more remarkable is that I wasn’t scared, at all. I swear. Every fear of any boudoir pose or pinup posture left my mind. They’d reassured me that I would see myself as I truly was. As I squeezed into my merrywidow, snapped my garters and took a look at myself in the mirror, I knew they were right.
Lillian’s make up application was flawless. She knew how to create the perfect pinup look. Her skills are no joke- seriously. Thanks to her, I was ultimately prepared for my very first pinup boudoir photography session, without fear, hesitation or regret.
“Close your eyes, for one second, and imagine a cloud. Now become that cloud”…
That’s what Star the boudoir photographer told me to do. I was outside in the Hollywood Hills on her patio in broad day light in nothing but a merrywidow, pantyhose and heels with a flower in my hair. Being a cloud was exactly what I felt like – perfect, light and free. The thing about it was, none of it was staged. We literally sat there for what seemed like a wrinkle in time, discussing how beautiful the view from her boudoir photography studio was, and how her passion for boudoir photography was to inspire and encourage woman to see the beauty in themselves. “My eyes are your mirror”, she said, “This is how I see you”. I wasn’t aware of the camera. She precisely captured my expression throughout our entire conversation. Lillian came around in intervals to fix my hair and adjust my outfit and within a nano-second our boudoir photo guru caught me again! Honestly, it was the most natural experience. I didn’t want to be anywhere else but there in that moment and I loved myself completely. I know it’s because of the synergy I’d felt between myself, Lillian and Star. Their ability to engage me in the process of discovering my beauty in the form of boudoir photography was in and of itself the most profound awakening I’ve ever had.
I’d love to go into detail about the boudoir poses and what the session entailed but I’ll save that for my next post. If this article has done anything for you at all, hopefully it’s encouraged you to reset your self-image. It’s your turn to define sexy. I cordially invite you to become the smoking hot subject of a boudoir photography shoot, with Harmony Boudoir Photography. You’ll never see yourself in your old skin again. Promise.